Our organization is committed to the principles of Positive Coaching Alliance and against a “win-at-all-cost” mentality. PCA calls a Positive Coach a “Double-Goal Coach®.” A win-at-all-cost coach has only one goal – to win. A Positive Coach shares that goal (wants to win) but has a second goal that is even more important – to use the sports experience to help young people learn “life lessons” and positive character traits that will help them be successful throughout their lives.
We want players and parents who want to use basketball as a vehicle to gain a college scholarship. Our job at Lions of Essex is to supply our members with all the training and support they need to attain that goal.
Help us promote athletics and academics, which have the power to transform your child and get them headed into the future with important tools.
We specialize in increasing on the court basketball IQ, proper technique and footwork.
HELPING YOUR CHILD
In professional sports (which is entertainment), there is only one goal – to have the most points at the end of a contest. However, in youth sports (which is education), there is a second goal: to produce young people who will be winners in life. To help our children get the most out of competitive sports, we need to redefine what it means to be a “winner.” Winners are those who:
• Make maximum effort.
• Continue to learn and improve.
• Refuse to let mistakes (or fear of making mistakes) stop them.
This is called a Mastery Orientation. The Positive Coaching Alliance says that the Tree of Mastery is an ELM Tree. ELM stands for Effort, Learning, and rebounding from Mistakes. If our athletes keep these things in mind, they will develop habits that will serve them well throughout their lives.
There is an added benefit. Athletes who are coached with a Mastery Orientation tend to have reduced anxiety and increased self-confidence. And when athletes feel less anxiety, they are more likely to have fun playing their sport and do better! For this reason, we do not believe in taking players out of the game for making mistakes. We want them to know that mistakes are acceptable if you are giving maximum effort.
Here’s how you can help:
- Tell your child that it’s OK to make a mistake.
- Let your child know you appreciate it when
they try hard, even if unsuccessful.
- Ask rather than tell. Try to get your child to
talk about her play rather than telling her
what you think about it. Ask open-ended
questions to get them to talk (e.g., “What was
the best part of the game for you?”)
- Recognize that Mastery is hard work. Let the
coaches criticize your child’s play. Tell your
child you are proud of them regardless of the
outcome of the game.